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How Much I Share About My Mental Health On My Blog?


I always wonder what I should be sharing online. Do I need to share my whole life, like some people do? Or do I remain a tad vague, only giving out a few things, peppered here or there, giving me an air of mystery? (Am I an international spy who poses as someone trying to make it as a blogger? Kind of a lame cover, but you’ll never know, not even if you read my blog and try to uncover all the clues I may or may not have been sprinkling throughout it all these years…)

I admire the people who can open up and talk about their lives without shame. And not only that, but make great blog posts about it. Turn their experiences or mistakes into a lesson that helps us all, in relatable and entertaining ways. But the ones I truly, truly admire, are the ones who can do that with their mental health experiences. To turn something that may have been been very traumatic, troubling, and horrible into something that others can relate to, identify with, learn from, and educate others. I think that is so commendable and incredibly valuable to everyone in the mental health community. But...

In Carrie Bradshaw voice while typing on her laptop and gazing out the window: That makes me wonder: as much as I want to be a mental health advocate, how much of my mental health experience should I share online?

I love reading other people’s mental health blogs. The fact that they can be so open about their issues is inspiring and admirable, and something I want to do. Eventually. Maybe. Because I’m not sure if I’m there yet. Or if I ever will be.

You might have noticed that I’ve shared a few of my experience on my blog here. That I have OCD, depression, anxiety, panic disorder, and oh, the list goes on and on! (Or seems to anyway) I’ve also shared my experiences with going to numerous mental health professionals over the years, EMDR therapy, a letter to my younger self about having mental health, and so on (click here to find all these posts on my mental health tag!). But I’ve been holding back. There are some things that are easy to talk about with mental health, and other things… not so much.

So where do I go from here? Do I open up like the brave mental health advocate bloggers I read or do I keep tiptoeing around the big issues and write about what I find easy(ish) to talk about?

I think the answer can be both. I think there are some things that I may never want to talk about on my blog. Some things may be just too painful to recount or even admit. But there are of course some things I want to share and hopefully will be willing to share one day. I’ve mentioned having OCD and panic disorder, but I haven’t really talked about my years long battle with emetophobia (aka the fear of vomiting). Nor have I talked about my short stint with agoraphobia (now THAT was fun. I’m kidding. It was awful. Duh). But I want to. I really do.

And maybe I can some day. But I might have to work up to it first. Slowly, but I think I can get there. And I have to think that being a mental health advocate isn’t just about sharing the nitty gritty of their experiences with mental health. It’s about opening up the conversation, breaking down that taboo, and reminding people that it’s way more common than we think. And we should be TALKING about it, not keeping it all inside like I’ve been doing my entire life.

So, in my own, vague way, I hope that my stories that I share are helping and opening up that communication with others, and that in the future, I can be even more open and therefore help more people who may be struggling with the very same things I too once struggled with.

But not so open that you immediately think upon reading my blog, “GIRL, shut it down, Emily! Shut down this Pandora’s box of crazy!” Because no one really wants to go THAT deep into someone’s brain, right?? Especially my brain. No one wants to Inception this large clump of gray matter, trust me.

I think a combination of where I am now with blogging about my mental health and being more open about it (but not being completely open, because honestly, there are just some things I probably will never share with anyone except for a close friend, family member, or a mental health professional) and meeting between the two will be a perfect mix of things I can share and hopefully inspire others with similar mental health issues to speak up and talk about their issues.

Let’s just hope I can get the courage to get there soon! But for now, I’ll share with you what I can and maybe, just maybe, they might help someone. 💜

*But please note, just because I may be sharing certain things about my own mental health issues, doesn’t mean you have to. Sharing your own mental health experiences is up to you. If you want to open up, great. If not, that’s entirely your decision. Some people are happier not talking about it and only sharing it with certain, select people. Either of these choices are perfectly normal and okay. You do what’s comfortable and healthy for you!


For people who talk or blog about mental health issues, how honest and open are you with your experiences? Do you share everything, or only select things? Or do you keep it all to yourself? (You have that right! It’s not anyone’s business unless you want it to be!) Let me know in the comments!

Stay Weird,
Emily


17 comments on "How Much I Share About My Mental Health On My Blog?"
  1. Hello. Im a 46 year old mom of 3 kids and 20 years married. I live in El Salvador C.A. I was finally diagnosed as bipolar2 13 years ago. I knew something was wrong with me since around I was 22. I got pregnant before married at 24 with someone who wasnt even my boyfriend but we got married 10 days before my 1rst daughter was born. I didnt want to look for help because I wanted more children and without any drug. After my 3rd kid was born my husband pressured me to look for help for the best of the family. So I did. It has been very very hard. The first 12 years just changing from drug to drug. Tried as if I was in deppression ... being a guinea pig, my weight going up and down with zyprexa. It was until the 3rd year of me visiting the dr that he said I was probably bipolar2 because they dont like to give these kind od diagnoses over here since most of the time they could be worong. Well 6 years ago I went to see another dr and he started medicating me with epival and seroquel. My doses are high but I do feel much better. Any ways, Ive had my moments and completely changed since I turned from zyprexa to seroquel, both anti sicotics. My "passive deppresion" which was miserable, vanished. And I found my highschool , 20 year old self again. I blossomed. But my children didnt know me and my husband wasnt used to seeing me take advantage of every single second of my life. Any way. There it is. Theres more of course but my children AND husband have begged me not to talk about my mental condition to anyone but them since I openly have said "no thanks" to a drink or anythink else, weed, what ever , friends ask why and I say"because of my meds"... "what meds?" And if I feel comfortable i have shared my story openly. Much more than here. I supported with green ribbons may the mental condition awareness month on instagram. There should be NO stigma. But it really bothered my whole family. So I am not free to openly speak about my condition. Maybe later. Maybe an anonymous book or something. This is a really close minded society here and well. Thats how I have to behave. I enjoyed reading your blog in pinterest.

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    1. Hi Patty! Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I'm sorry you had to suffer for so many years. Psychiatrists have always told me that meds are a guessing game sometimes, so it can take a while till you find the right medication (or medications) for you. I know there can be a lot of stigma around antidepressants and anti-psychotics, but I take them as well, and they've helped me so much, and I'm glad they've helped you too! It's amazing how a medication or a combo of meds can turn your whole world around. I'm so glad you found the combination that works for you! But I'm so sorry about your family. I wish they can be more supportive about it, but I know it's a hard topic to talk about with some people. I don't even really talk about it too much with my friends, but I'm trying to be more open about it, even if it's just on my blog. I hope you'll be able to talk about your mental health journey in the future and I hope your family comes around and can support your openness and honesty one day. I hope you have someone, a friend or even the mental health community on Twitter you can talk to about these things if you can't with your family. I hope you can be able to talk about this more someday, when you're ready. But for now, you're being really brave just by saying all of this on here. <3

      Thank you so much for sharing your story, Patty. It means a lot that you decided to be open and share! You're incredibly brave! <3 Let me know if you ever need to talk too!

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  2. Honestly, 'how much you should share' should really come down to what you're comfortable with. Yes, sharing can help other people and open the door to a conversation BUT it should NEVER be at the expense of your personal health and well-being. If it's uncomfortable and going to have a negative impact on your overall mental health and happiness, then don't do it. You need to protect yourself first and foremost.

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    1. Hi Britt! I completely agree with you, 100%. That's why I put that little blurb at the bottom saying that it's okay if you don't want to share anything about your mental health online. It's your own business, and it's your choice whether you want to share it or not. And I totally agree with your last statement: "You need to protect yourself first and foremost." Exactly! Of course opening up can be great for the mental health community, but you shouldn't have to share something that can damage your emotional and psychological well-being, especially if you aren't ready or just don't want to. It's a fine line that I'm learning how to maneuver. :)

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting! It means a lot to me <3

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  3. I've suffered with anxiety and depression for most of my teenage and adult life. But I'm only just begining to share that with people. It's completely up to the individual as you said, there's no right or wrong amount. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Having recently been diagnosed with mild agoraphobia and social phobia, I'd personally be interested in your experience.

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    1. Hi Kim! I'm sorry you've had to suffer through anxiety and depression. Those two sometimes just seem to go hand in hand. At least, they do for me. I'm slowly starting to open up more online, as you can tell, but I'm still having a hard time opening up to friends and even family. Hopefully I can get there with time. I'm so sorry to hear that. Agoraphobia isn't fun, but it gets better with time and help. <3

      Thank you for reading and commenting!!

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  4. Personally I feel that how much you share is always don't to yourself. It should always stay within a range that you feel comfortable with. Never get out of your comfort zone if you don't feel comfortable about it. I personally share quite a lot about my mental health on my blog, because to me it is my way of actually saying it. I'm too scared to share it with the people I know in real life most of the time, so I share it on my blog, because I know there will always be people that relate to it. I don't have that feeling with the people I know in real life and I'm always scared that they'll think I'm a freak. I also think that people online will think that, but I can't see the expression on their faces when they're reading my post, so I can never know for sure. If that makes sense. This was a really great post, can't wait to read some more of you ♥

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    1. Hi Chloe! I feel that exact same way. I know there are some things I may never feel comfortable sharing, but there are some things I really do want to share, in case it helps another person out. I love that you're so open about mental health, I really admire that! And feel that way as well. It's easier to open up online, than in real life, because at least you know there are more people online who might understand and get what you've been through. I don't talk too much about my mental health with anyone other than my family, so I feel like having an outlet online where others can relate and know what I've been through has been such an unexpected blessing. Thank you so much for saying that! I was worried about writing this post, but I've had so many positive comments (yours included), that I'm glad I wrote it.

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment! I really appreciate you taking the time to read my post! <3

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  5. I personally share quite alot about my own mental health and my journey because it helps. I have very little people in life I can open up to so it's much easier in written form to strangers on the internet who might get how I feel. It helps me feel heard and not alone. But it should come down to what you are comfortable with and not what you think you should be doing.

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    1. Hi Nyxie! I admire you so much for sharing your experiences online! I think it's incredibly brave and powerful and I know it helps a lot of people, too. I feel the same way. I only ever really talk about my mental health with my family and online. But sharing my issues online has been scary but so rewarding. I hope I can be brave enough to do more of it in the future!

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting! It means a lot <3

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  6. I've been having the same ponder recently and you saying that not everyone needs to be that open is completely reassuring and much appreciated. I have massive respect for everyone that can be completely honest but you have to be in the right place (I'm getting there!). Thanks fellow weirdo I love your blog

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    1. I'm glad you think so as well! I'm getting to the point where I want to be more open about my mental health, because I'm 30 now and I'm like "who cares??" but at the same time I've been keeping it in for so long it's hard to open up and break that habit. But I hope you can get to that right place someday (only if you want to though!). Thank you so much for reading, fellow weirdo! I love your blog too!

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  7. It's completely up to you on how much you want to share. This is your niche after all. I do worry about opening up (though I have about my lupus a lot!) esp. because the big bloggers get threads of people talking about them on gomi.com but thankfully we're not big enough to be on those boards!! XD Anyway, I am starting EMDR soon, I saw a therapist lately about my panic attacks and anxiety while driving as a result from a car accident last year and having seizures from my lupus (and being hospitalized for 11 days). I enjoyed reading your EMDR journey so I can know what to expect. And it's great you're sharing your experiences out there so that others won't feel so alone!

    Hannah the Mad Dog

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    1. Hi Hannah! You have a good point. I think it's brave of you to open up about your lupus. I hadn't heard of gomi.com before but I just looked it up, and I think it's safe that NO ONE will be talking about me on there, haha. I'm not a big enough blogger or influencer to EVER be on there! Oh, wow, good luck with your EMDR! I'm so sorry about your panic attacks and anxiety, but EMDR really helped me and I hope it can help you too. It's kind of amazing what will come up during a session! And thank you! I'm hoping I can get brave enough to share more of my experiences. I just still feel that stigma sometimes with mental health, even though I'm trying to stop that stigma! Thank you so much for reading and commenting! I'll be thinking of you with your EMDR therapy <3

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  8. I can totally relate to you and this post. I struggle with sharing as well, but I realized that sharing is more for me than for anyone else. It releases a lot of toxins and frustration in my body when I share the struggles I go through daily. I realized that a lot of other people go through just as much as we think and it can only help to bond closer together with those that are like us. We understand ourselves the best and what better person to share and relate to than someone like me. I hope you get better at it because I would love to read more about it. We are strong and we are brave, so you got this!

    xo,
    Kriss

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    1. Hi Kriss! That's such an excellent point, and honestly, I feel that way too when I post something about my mental health. It's almost like a release of this information out into the universe and hopefully it goes to someone who it might be able to help. And that's such a beautiful way of putting it! I love that so much! And thank you so much for saying that. I really hope I get braver and can post more about my life and my mental health. <3 Thank you so so so much for your kind words and your words of encouragement! Your comment made my day! <3 <3 <3

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  9. Greetings! I know this is kinda off topic however , I’d figured I’d ask. Would you be interested in trading links or maybe guest authoring a blog article or vice-versa? My website goes over a lot of the same topics as yours and I feel we could greatly benefit from each other. If you happen to be interested feel free to send me an e-mail. I look forward to hearing from you! Excellent blog by the way! behavioral health services

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